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Blown away by hospitality

Having left everything behind, and finally arrived in Washington in January 2013, you might be wondering where we were staying and how it would be possible given the fact we had hardly any money. Well let me introduce to you our dear friend Diane Segars and her son Jo!

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Out of the generosity of her heart, Diane took us into her home rent free for what would end up being a six month stay! Diane had recently had her basement remodeled and it was perfect for a family to temporarily live in. We had lovely bedrooms, a huge living room and beautiful views from the deck. Most of all we got blessed with Diane’s amazing cooking!!

This is where God led us as part of his plan to slowly heal and restore us. The funny thing is that Diane had been praying prior to us coming about what the Lord wanted her to do with her open space basement. She had felt for a while that she wanted to use it for retiring pastors who needed a time of healing. But in her own words she never thought it would be a young pastor and his family though!

“Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.” (Romans 12:13 ESV)

A hospitable loving church
Living with Diane was just a five minute walk from Faith Community Fellowship church. We had some family links there and it made sense that we would come along to this church in our new season of life. The church in many ways was very different to where we had come from. It wasn’t like the church that we had planted or our previous churches that we had been apart of… but this church excelled in love and in hospitality!

For a relatively small sized church we were showered with people welcoming us, loving us, serving us and providing for us in so many ways. One amazing example would be a future one when we finally moved into our own home. We had literally a few suitcases and that was it. We didn’t even have a fork or a mug for our new home! But the church rallied around us and provided nearly everything we needed for our new home! Sofas, cutlery, TV, food, toiletries, money, ornaments, cushions, chairs, and so much more. I will certainly write about this profound experience another time but I just wanted to get the picture across of what an amazing church we had landed with.

Without love it’s all nothing!
You can have all sorts of great things in a church – powerful ministry, Spirit led worship, anointed preaching, a glorious building, miracles, great publicity, etc. The list can go on and on, but here is something I learnt… in the famous words of the Apostle Paul – if you don’t have love, you really don’t have anything at all! (1 Corinthians 13:1-3).

My family and I were in a state of weakness and brokenness and God had placed us in a church that was filled with God’s love and welcomed us with hospitality.

Hospitality is an expression of God’s welcoming heart
Did you know the way we welcome people into our homes and into our lives can be an expression of the gospel and of how God welcomes us into his ‘home’ and world?

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God is the most hospitable person in the universe! Through the death of Jesus his Son, he adopted us as his very own children and welcomed us into his family and Heavenly home.

The father said to his servants, ‘Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate. (‭Luke‬ ‭15‬:‭22-24‬ ESV)

Through Jesus Christ, God gave us a place in his eternal home! He has clothed us with royal garments. He has killed the fattened calf and put on a party (in his own home!) for us because once we were dead but now we are alive and found in Him!

Jesus shares with us everything that once was only his!
Being adopted into God’s family also means that we are brothers and sisters with God’s only begotten Son, Jesus Christ. This means we are ‘co-heirs’ with Christ (Romans 8:16-17). We literally share everything that once only belonged to Jesus! Thats real hospitality – making everything that is yours somebody else’s too! Have you ever thought of the gospel from this angle before? Isn’t our God incredibly generous, unselfish and hospitable?

We share with Jesus his heavenly home. His unique Identity as God’s Son is now shared and given to us too! His royal privileges and so much more that we don’t really know about. But one day when Jesus returns we will discover the extent of His glorious generosity and hospitality to us as we come into the fullness of what it means to be God’s adopted sons and daughters.(Romans 8:23-25).

The gift of hospitality
What does this all mean for us? Just as God has welcomed us right into his life and home we should do the same with one another. Our dear friend Diane Segars and our church have been outstanding examples of this kind of love and hospitality!

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” (1Peter 4: 8-10 ESV)

You might be reading this and thinking I want to be more hospitable but I don’t think I could do ‘that’ or be like ‘that person’. Well I do believe the above verse indicates that hospitality is a gift and that there are varying degrees of this gift (‘God’s varied grace’) that God has bestowed on each of us. Therefore if you feel a desire to have someone over for a meal… then go for it! Or maybe you feel faith to take someone into your home for 6 months… then go for it! Or perhaps you feel a calling and a desire to literally adopt a child (or more) into your home and family… then go for it! Whatever level of hospitality you feel you have been given, go for it with joy, doing it for the Lord!

“And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” (Colossians 3:17 ESV)

A time to run!

“You’ve got to face your fears! You have got to face your demons. If you don’t they will haunt you all your life!”

We have all heard this kind of advice at some point in our lives whether that be personally, in a famous autobiography or perhaps on a cool fighting movie or something! We can’t spend our lives running away from things, but sometimes there is a time or a season to run away…

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4500 miles across the pond!
As you know in our case God opened up the way for us to literally move 4500 miles away from a very difficult time in our lives in London (see previous posts). For 9 months after crashing and burning out,  I held out as hard as I could to stay in London, to keep my family in our home and in our world! I was clinging to what I thought was best and most precious to me, but what we really needed was to somehow get away… After we arrived in Washington I came across this verse from the story of Mary and Joseph and noted it in my journal –

“An angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, “Rise, take the child and his mother, and flee to Egypt, and remain there until I tell you, for Herod is about to search for the child, to destroy him.” (Matthew 2:13)

Joseph and his family were diverted away from their home town in Bethlehem as part of God’s protection and rescue plan. And according to commentaries it seems that they may have stayed in Egypt for about 7 years rather than a few months before returning home.

God told Joseph and his family to run away!
What I found really interesting about this was that in this situation God does not tell Joseph to stand strong against an enemy attack. He doesn’t tell Joseph to fight the potential danger that was soon to come to his family. God tells him to flee. To run away and get the heck out of there!

Why is this taking so long God, Arrrr!??
God often brings us out from a dangerous or chaotic place in order to get our attention from all the noise and begin a process of healing. That process for me was and continues to be a long process!

At times over the last year I have gotten frustrated expecting that surely by now God would have me and my family all fixed, delivered and sorted from every problem in life! But it hasn’t been that way. “What’s going on God?! Why is life still so hard? Come on it’s been like 2 years!”

David was on the run from Saul for 8 years!!!
We read in 1 Samuel 21:10-15 that David ran away from Saul in fear of his life and went into a season of hiding! He was a fugitive on the run. What I didn’t realize was that David was most probably in this season for 4-8 years according to different scholars! I just always thought of it as maybe a few months reading the quick snapshots of the story in 1 Samuel. But no, David entered a season of running, of hiding, and of hardship for up to 8 years.

How can this happen to God’s chosen King?
Hold on a minute! How can this be? How can a righteous person like David with an incredible calling on his life be in such a situation? I cant imagine prince William (the next in line to the British throne) being on the run from danger and living away from home because of someone wanting to kill him. Why did God allow David to be in such a terrible situation? It just seems so wrong and unfitting for a King to be! He should be protected. He should be honored as a king, not left to be a fugitive on the run from a killer!

We are also God’s chosen Kings and Queens to be!
As born again believers in Jesus we are our now part of God’s royal family!

“And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory…” (Romans 8:17 NLT)

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We are joint heirs with Jesus who is the King reigning on the throne of heaven. Just as Prince William (and Harry) is heir of the throne by way of birth and ‘sonship’, so we as believers in Christ are born again into God’s royal family and are heirs of heaven’s throne. By grace we will inherit and share in Jesus’ royal status as King. This is amazing!

“I’m gona live like a child of the King”
Every now and then I come across the motto, ‘I’m gona live like a royal child of the King’. What people usually mean when they say this is that they are claiming their God given rights to live a life of victory, freedom and blessing in every aspect of life. And while this is true of who we are in Christ, it is not the whole truth this side of eternity. You wanna live like a child of the King? Are you sure? Do You want to live like King David who ran for 8 years from Saul? What about our ultimate King – Jesus Christ? He suffered more than anyone! He was driven out from his home town. He was crucified on a cross!

God’s royal heirs must share in Christ’s sufferings…
Surely God won’t allow his royal children to suffer and find themselves on the run from danger… will he?? Here is the next bit of our wonderful Romans 8:17 verse speaking of our royal heirship with Christ –

“… But if we are to share his glory, we must also share in his suffering.” (Romans 8:17 NLT)

I liked the first bit of this verse about us sharing in Christ’s royal glory but this bit… well let’s say I didn’t expect to read this. This verse is not saying that suffering somehow earns or merits us salvation! But it means that a mark of being a follower of Christ is that we will suffer and experience hardship. I don’t believe this ‘suffering’ is relegated to just persecution for the faith as sometimes people may say. No, this verse is is talking about all Christians. It’s part of the Christian life this side of eternity!

Take comfort that you are Christ’s!
Suffering will come to us and God will purposefully allow it at different times and in different seasons of our lives. Why? Well that’s another blog! But for now here is the point – when you are suffering, when you are on the run from a certain situation in your life, when hardship goes on for a very long time – you can take some refuge in knowing that this is biblical! You are in good company with all the brothers and sisters in Christ across the world!

“Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through as if something strange were happening to you. Instead, be very glad—for these trials make you partners with Christ in his suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing his glory when it is revealed to all the world.” (1 Peter 4:12, 13 NLT)

If anything our sufferings are perhaps meant to encourage us that we are truly God’s royal children sharing in Christ’s sufferings… I know for me that this theme has helped me find purpose and meaning in the midst of long term suffering and in finding an answer to the question of why Is this happening! I have felt at times a strange sense of belonging to God because of the suffering. A sense or confirmation of being one of God’s chosen and adopted children… a royal heir of Christ!